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ginmar's last few posts in general make me feel very queasy and very angry that I am female. I hate that I have to think about this, that I worry about walking outside when it's dark and I'm alone but my boyfriend doesn't. I hate that people I knew at college laughed at the Take Back the Night marches and thought they were unnecessary and quoted the same kinds of statistics on male rape or females lying about being raped (ala Disclosure, stupid ass book). I hate that I feel nidgy and frightened whenever a strange man talks to me, even if he's just being friendly. I hate that I feel almost physically threatened when men invade my personal space. I also hate that my mom tells stories of people being raped to make sure I am more careful, that my sister sometimes blames unwelcome attention from guys on herself being "too friendly." I hate that when she does that, my mom substantiates it and says my sister should be more careful who she smiles to, because people could get the wrong impression.

I hate that this fear has power over my life just because I am female.

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Yeah, I actually took a class offered by the school (plus a semester's worth of karate and kendo each). I should carry my kendo stick around all the time, and then no one would f** with me.

I don't know why all these strange guys talk to me! It's really annoying, and I wish I had a giant sign that said "GO AWAY."

I hate living and wondering all the time if I am giving "the wrong impression" etc. etc. if I am wearing tight clothing or whatever. It's such a stupid thing -- it reminds of Reading Lolita in Iran and how the women there had to veil themselves and cover themselves in case they provoked the men!! Yeah, limit the women's freedom because the men can't control themselves?!