So, as a man who rarely reads/watches romance stuff, but has crossover w/manga and asian dramas?
I -always- have the red lights going off in my head when I see it, but this probably is mostly because I've helped at least 3 friends out of DV-ish situations, and so alpha male behavior = "shoot him now" in my head.
That aside, I think for me, the biggest problem is that the fucked up behaviors are rarely or never identified as deeply problematic- they often end up "earning" love.
It's the way in which these stories don't lead to people getting a better or healthier sense of boundaries, but rather just being lucky that someone rescues them from fucked-up-ed-ness.
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Wed, Apr. 2nd, 2008 02:19 am (UTC)I -always- have the red lights going off in my head when I see it, but this probably is mostly because I've helped at least 3 friends out of DV-ish situations, and so alpha male behavior = "shoot him now" in my head.
That aside, I think for me, the biggest problem is that the fucked up behaviors are rarely or never identified as deeply problematic- they often end up "earning" love.
It's the way in which these stories don't lead to people getting a better or healthier sense of boundaries, but rather just being lucky that someone rescues them from fucked-up-ed-ness.