I am adding something here, because it just happened, and I thought it appropos to our conversation.
I was talking with my neighbour, and it came up that I had dated an Asian before I married my husband (half Asian). She looked at me, and said "So, do you have a thing for Asian guys?"
I was floored. WTF? I couldn't believe what a rude thing it was for her to say, but if I hadn't been reading your posts, and thinking about this particular issue, I don't think that I could have saved myself from saying something really really rude out of shock. (My husband's response when I told him about this was to ask if I had asked her "Do you have a thing for assholes?" (we don't like her partner much). No one has ever said that to me before, and I don't think that it would have dawned on me that people *would* say things like that. The worst thing is that I don't think that she has any idea how rude she was being.
I answered very calmly that we had met through friends, and it was a reflection of the makeup of the group of people that I was friends with at the time. Since, however, I can't stop either laughing at the utter absurdity of this, and trying to decide how angry I want to get about it. Bleah.
So, weirdly, the IBARW came at just the right time for me. Thanks.
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Thu, Jul. 27th, 2006 09:26 pm (UTC)I was talking with my neighbour, and it came up that I had dated an Asian before I married my husband (half Asian). She looked at me, and said "So, do you have a thing for Asian guys?"
I was floored. WTF? I couldn't believe what a rude thing it was for her to say, but if I hadn't been reading your posts, and thinking about this particular issue, I don't think that I could have saved myself from saying something really really rude out of shock. (My husband's response when I told him about this was to ask if I had asked her "Do you have a thing for assholes?" (we don't like her partner much). No one has ever said that to me before, and I don't think that it would have dawned on me that people *would* say things like that. The worst thing is that I don't think that she has any idea how rude she was being.
I answered very calmly that we had met through friends, and it was a reflection of the makeup of the group of people that I was friends with at the time. Since, however, I can't stop either laughing at the utter absurdity of this, and trying to decide how angry I want to get about it. Bleah.
So, weirdly, the IBARW came at just the right time for me. Thanks.