I play with dating things
Thu, Jul. 28th, 2005 04:21 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
oyceterI make a confession: I have joined eHarmony.
Wait, wait! I am not insane! Actually, I was lured in by their giant-ass questionnaire (it's too much like a meme to resist). Furthermore, refuse to pay, and even more importantly, I seriously doubt that I am ready or willing to start dating right now.
The scary thing is that they start throwing matches at you even if you haven't paid and really have no intention of paying! The really scary thing is that I have absolutely no idea how they came up with those matches, given that every single one of them looks extremely generic. I mean, honestly. I can't remember how one is different from the other, except this one person put his most important quality in a person as "piety" and the most influential person in his life as "Jesus." Now don't get me wrong, because I have nothing against Christianity. But given how I answered questions and the like, I reeeeaaaally don't think me and this guy would be a good fit, seeing as how I am not exactly pious, to say the very least.
One guy even jump started stuff and did the "asking close-ended questions" step. Apparently eHarmony works so that you can't actually browse all the profiles -- they match you up with potential people who show up in "My Matches." If they look interesting, you can progress to asking close-ended questions (multiple choice, which I did answer, because again, memeage!), then to seeing their entire profile, then to open-ended questions, then email, I suppose. Very structured! Weird.
So since everyone else's profile seemed quite bland, I decided to put all the potentially off-putting things first in my profile, half to ward off any more people deciding I'd be a good match for them based on some random multiple-choice questionnaire that I did while half asleep, half in case anyone who would really be interested in me would see and much geekery could ensue. So I have things like love of rats, knitting, fandom person, genre book reader, and etc. put down. I almost sort of feel that if one is going to do the online dating thing, shouldn't one put down all these potentially off-putting things in the very beginning? Because there are people who find that kind of stuff attractive, I'm sure, and if you don't put it in the forefront, then there may be unexpected surprises and the like. Plus, wouldn't it heighten the chance of meeting someone else who liked that so at least you could geek out together?
Er, or am I just completely wrong about the entire dating thing?
Anyhow, I feel like an undercover anthropologist! More reports later, if anything funny happens!
Wait, wait! I am not insane! Actually, I was lured in by their giant-ass questionnaire (it's too much like a meme to resist). Furthermore, refuse to pay, and even more importantly, I seriously doubt that I am ready or willing to start dating right now.
The scary thing is that they start throwing matches at you even if you haven't paid and really have no intention of paying! The really scary thing is that I have absolutely no idea how they came up with those matches, given that every single one of them looks extremely generic. I mean, honestly. I can't remember how one is different from the other, except this one person put his most important quality in a person as "piety" and the most influential person in his life as "Jesus." Now don't get me wrong, because I have nothing against Christianity. But given how I answered questions and the like, I reeeeaaaally don't think me and this guy would be a good fit, seeing as how I am not exactly pious, to say the very least.
One guy even jump started stuff and did the "asking close-ended questions" step. Apparently eHarmony works so that you can't actually browse all the profiles -- they match you up with potential people who show up in "My Matches." If they look interesting, you can progress to asking close-ended questions (multiple choice, which I did answer, because again, memeage!), then to seeing their entire profile, then to open-ended questions, then email, I suppose. Very structured! Weird.
So since everyone else's profile seemed quite bland, I decided to put all the potentially off-putting things first in my profile, half to ward off any more people deciding I'd be a good match for them based on some random multiple-choice questionnaire that I did while half asleep, half in case anyone who would really be interested in me would see and much geekery could ensue. So I have things like love of rats, knitting, fandom person, genre book reader, and etc. put down. I almost sort of feel that if one is going to do the online dating thing, shouldn't one put down all these potentially off-putting things in the very beginning? Because there are people who find that kind of stuff attractive, I'm sure, and if you don't put it in the forefront, then there may be unexpected surprises and the like. Plus, wouldn't it heighten the chance of meeting someone else who liked that so at least you could geek out together?
Er, or am I just completely wrong about the entire dating thing?
Anyhow, I feel like an undercover anthropologist! More reports later, if anything funny happens!
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Fri, Jul. 29th, 2005 08:43 am (UTC):) That makes total sense to me.
I'm interested in doing okcupid mostly just to find cool people in the area to hang out with, and also as a means to have company so i can check out bars in the area (to see where i wanna try to work) but i'm holding off until i actually have income i can spend at said bars.
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Fri, Jul. 29th, 2005 02:01 pm (UTC)I've been luckier these days in finding people to hang out with, thanks to work having enough people I like personally.
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Fri, Jul. 29th, 2005 02:19 pm (UTC)You make a profile and can code things as interests (though that's nowhere near as easy as it is in LJ). The default search is by location, and you can filter by gender/orientation. The profile's long enough to give you a good sense of what people are like. And you can fill out quizzes to help the system recommend you matches (plus giving people checking out your profile more info about you). And there's also a "questions that are important to me" section as well.