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[oyceter]

Rather annoyed at the reviews of Kinsale's Shadowheart on Amazon, particularly the therapist who was rather touchy about the "deviant behavior," which she didn't agree was "mild S&M." I dunno. From what I've seen of some S&M sites (and just read in fanfic), Shadowheart really does seem rather mild. But then, what do I know?

Ah well. Want LJ people to all read this book so I can read what they think, heh heh.

Also very annoyed because I submitted two resumes to Google to get automated responses that the positions I applied to apparently do not exist. Except they're on the website. I am very confused. Emailed the help people, hopefully something will be explained?

I'm just rather tired and bored -- I go to work and sit at the computer all day, come home, eat, and move things from the old apartment. Then diddle around on the computer and sleep. No time for other things if I want to get moved out. Urk.

And the Snape/Hermione fanfic thing is not working out. I'm so used to reading Jossverse fic solely through recs, of which there were no shortage, that having to wade through all the bad fic on my own is really, really frustrating. And not many of the reccers share this strange kink of mine =(. Doh. Need fic crack!

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[rachelmanija.livejournal.com]

I read the quote by the same therapist, and it gave me the creeps. This woman has a therapy group, and she sees no distinction between abusing children, battering your loved ones, and consensual bedroom play involving bondage and/or S & M.

Not only does she not get the concept that consent makes a difference (if consent didn't matter, either all sex would be rape, or there would be no such thing as rape) or the difference between children and adults, but she doesn't seem to see the difference between a near-fatal injury and a love bite. Or she seems to think that love bites will lead inevitably to mutilation and death.

Her patients are going to end up either sexually frightened and inhibited, or have no sense of what's safe and what isn't, or really pissed off at her at some future date for wasting their time and money.

As for whether the particulars in SHADOW HEART are mild or not as compared to most people's experience with bondage/S & M, I actually don't know. But except for the particular parts being pinched or scratched or whacked, I'd say that it's no more than one might expect from an intense free-sparring class: you might be bruised or scratched the next day, but it's nothing to take notice of.

[oyceter]

Yeah, I know! And I feel if one is going to target romance novels for unhealthy relationship behaviors, there are a lot more -- like, oh the whole philosophy to stay with the man you love even though he treats you like crap, because loving him will make him change for the better.