I have one off the top of my head rec, and then I'll have to think about it. The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman, which yes, yes it's for lesbians, but it actually covers a lot of those topics, like disability, mental illness (including anorgasmia caused by meds), consent, varying kinks (as in whether partners' kinks match), how to negotiate, gender (not destiny), anal sex, poly, and on and on. It's a pretty broad book, so some topics aren't covered in-depth, but one of the things I like is that it has multiple women's voices, because the author included a bunch of survey responses in the book. It's not designed for het couples (obvsly), but it is a great discussion of the broad topics and has tons of resources for more information on each individual topic. It's very sex positive, too, which is a big plus (I sometimes am surprised by how many sex books don't seem sex positive).
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The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman, which yes, yes it's for lesbians, but it actually covers a lot of those topics, like disability, mental illness (including anorgasmia caused by meds), consent, varying kinks (as in whether partners' kinks match), how to negotiate, gender (not destiny), anal sex, poly, and on and on. It's a pretty broad book, so some topics aren't covered in-depth, but one of the things I like is that it has multiple women's voices, because the author included a bunch of survey responses in the book. It's not designed for het couples (obvsly), but it is a great discussion of the broad topics and has tons of resources for more information on each individual topic. It's very sex positive, too, which is a big plus (I sometimes am surprised by how many sex books don't seem sex positive).