*g* I kind of thought I was discussing dominant culture appropriating from minority culture. Or, yanno, the part where I appear to be a member of the dominant culture, anyway, or at least because due to hair and skin color and good mimicry skills, I can pass. (And it is passing. These middle-class white people? Their base assumptions? They're Not Like Me. But I don't actually have a mother culture to fall back on: I'm just completely alienated, due to the circumstances of my upbringing.)

...I guess what I'm saying is, I'm *trying* to build a bridge. So maybe I don't see where we're disagreeing, really, except in that I don't think that acknowledging (celebrating!) cultural differences means... depersoning the guy on the other side.