I'm really loving my belly dancing and Regency dancing, different as they are, because they don't require a partner.
And thanks! Slight disclaimer to my previous statement, though -- my primary social worlds are fandom, the BDSM community, and somewhat poly and medieval recreation circles -- all about as fat friendly as you could hope to find. I don't mean to undermine the experience of all the people out there who are made socially miserable because of their weight.
To tell you the truth if I could take the Miracle Pill and be thin, I probably would, in spite of all the work I've done on self-acceptance. It would help my knees and back and risk of diabetes, and also spare me having to deal with the perceptions and stuff like the fact that fat people are less likely to be hired and make less money. But I found the whole diet cycle to be immensely draining and soul-destroying, as well as ultimately unproductive.
I do know people who can diet with a healthy mindset, but I wore those grooves connecting diet = self-loathing = deprivation so deep in my brain in adolescence that I don't think, at this point, I personally can separate them -- or that I want to go to the immense trouble of trying.
What I am finding, though, is that I can add stuff without the same baggage as comes with subtracting stuff -- add a little exercise even if it's not as much as They Say I should do, add some more fruit and veg and olive oil and fish without denying myself whatever else I want to eat. So that's what I'm trying to do.
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And thanks! Slight disclaimer to my previous statement, though -- my primary social worlds are fandom, the BDSM community, and somewhat poly and medieval recreation circles -- all about as fat friendly as you could hope to find. I don't mean to undermine the experience of all the people out there who are made socially miserable because of their weight.
To tell you the truth if I could take the Miracle Pill and be thin, I probably would, in spite of all the work I've done on self-acceptance. It would help my knees and back and risk of diabetes, and also spare me having to deal with the perceptions and stuff like the fact that fat people are less likely to be hired and make less money. But I found the whole diet cycle to be immensely draining and soul-destroying, as well as ultimately unproductive.
I do know people who can diet with a healthy mindset, but I wore those grooves connecting diet = self-loathing = deprivation so deep in my brain in adolescence that I don't think, at this point, I personally can separate them -- or that I want to go to the immense trouble of trying.
What I am finding, though, is that I can add stuff without the same baggage as comes with subtracting stuff -- add a little exercise even if it's not as much as They Say I should do, add some more fruit and veg and olive oil and fish without denying myself whatever else I want to eat. So that's what I'm trying to do.